My mom can't and they say she gets too much for any help. Where to look? We need 24 hour care, my mom does not have the money to cover that at the cheapest rate. We cover weekends but we all work,,, they say she gets to much money to get any help. We did get VA help but have not found out the amount yet. They said the most would be 1,100 per month which does not go far. Does anyone know where else we can get assistance. We can provide room and board but some of the people that apply are more worried about a place to stay than taking care of our mom. I am hoping we can get some good suggestion for our mom. Thanks for any help
With VA & in an AL, there still will be a gap in monthly charge and you basically spend-down her assets during her AL period of time. Then hopefully she is impoverished to the point to qualify for Medicaid at the same time she medically qualifies for NH skilled nursing care. (You need to work with her MD in this too) She will have to spend-down and be able to show a pattern of spending before Medicaid will pay. NH run from 5K - 15K a month and about 60 - 70% of NH residents are on Medicaid. It is just flat horrendously expensive. Unless you are generationally wealthy, if you live long enough you will run out of money and need to apply to Medicaid for your NH stay. It is the reality of aging in America. By doing a spend-down at a facilty for 1 - 2 years, you enable her to get into a better NH by & large. Those there on private pay make up the list for the limited # of Medicaid beds. Good luck.