hi, thanks in advance
Mom pees 3X a night and is NOT incontinent! Mom is 91 and very weak. using a walker but it's not pretty. we've got live in care for her, mostly family members on shifts. the PLAN was for her to call for help in middle of nt when she has to pee, and we'd struggle groggily w/her to the bathroom. or, should we just let her go overnight (more than once?) in an adult diaper? is the diaper route riskier healthwise? (UTI's, etc.) during the day, she mostly lets us help her to the john, but we're all awake so it's not as difficult, as, say 3 am. thanks for any input!
It might be "safer" for her to go in her disposable undies, but that is a very, very difficult indignity to convince someone to do. How would you react to someone saying "It's OK. Just pee your pants and we'll change you in the morning"? If you are past 4 years old it is ingrained that you don't wet yourself.
What about a bedside commode? Do you think she could safely get out of bed, take just a few steps, and use that? Even though my husband needed help to do even that it was much easier on both of us not to have to somehow get into the bathroom.
It is possible that in order to keep Mom at home, someone actually has to take a night shift, staying awake, and sleeping some other time of day.
If she were in a care center, several staff would be awake and on duty and could help her to the bathroom 3x a night. I'm not suggesting a care center (I don't know enough about your situation) but just pointing out that to keep her safe you may have to adopt some of their practices.