I am planning to move to another state, and I am having a hard time trying to decide if I am doing the right thing to take my 81 year old mother who has dementia. See I have no support here at all and a friend in Tacoma, WA is trying to help me start over and has provided me with a lot of resources and support to get started. I dont really want to leave mom here because I dont trust my sisters and uncle would even go visit her, but on the other hand I have to try to get my mom to fly from here,(Maryland). I am going to try to have the assisted home already set up in fact I am going to visit first before I make my final decision. Am I making a mistake by taking my sole caregiver duties to another state?
but it all works out . and i wish u the very best and youre a good sweet daughter to go out of your way for ur mom . bless you . xoxo
Also be careful about finances if you move her! If she's receiving medicaide now, moving her might be impossible. To qualify for medicaide in another state she must establish residency THEN apply - in some states this takes 6 months!! Clearly understand the medicaide requirements in the new state before you contemplate moving her. You should also find a new doctor for her BEFORE moving her. Many doctors are limiting or excluding medicare patients due to slow payment so it could be difficult to find a new doc for her. I'm saying all this with the assumption that YOU are your mom's Power Of Attorney, have access to checking, medical records etc.....
Best of luck!!
Your practical wisdom continues to amaze me! ... Remind me to bow before you when we meet in person, okay?
DENISE:
Definitely visit the Evergreen State. Naheaton said it all. There's a lot to do there, and the breathtaking scenery will sit quite well with your mom. ... If WA doesn't work out, do you have a Plan B?
-- ED