I have to work full time and can not afford a caregiver for my mother with dementia/ Early Alzheimer’s. I keep finding poop on the toilet, sometimes the TP roll, floor, etc. I don’t know if she is washing her hands while I am at work and I am going to drive myself crazy worrying about the things she might be touching when I am not there (like ice cubes). I have walked into the kitchen to find her putting ointment on certain places and get disgusted the 10 seconds she washes her hands when she knows I am watching. I love her but this is really getting to me. She gets mad when I ask her to wash her hands. She will sometimes ask to help me with cooking but I say no because of the sanitation issues. Any suggestions? Thank you
YOUR income is not what matters here. HER resources are what take care of her. And she needs a higher level of care NOW.
Your profile says you care for her living "at home." Is that living in her home, or is she living in your home?
I definitely agree with the above posters who say it's time for a higher level of care.