My parents are in IL and need AL. The SL community wants to put my mom in the healthcare center, splitting them up. Won't let us move them or 4 months and won't give back their money. I found a place for them, but they can't hold the apt for 4 months. Do we have any recourse??
If you just put them in, most states have a 90 day "lemon" law for consumer affairs. So you may have some recourse this way. Contact your states Attorney General's office Consumer Affairs division. If they have been in IL @ the SLC for a long time, then it's different. You may be SOL to get any $$ back. You need to see an attorney on this. Sometimes the SLC will refund once they find another
"buyer" for your parent's "IL home", less the expenses to paint, clean, etc. You could try to see if maybe that could work and you get the place as nice as possible to "sell" it.
If they did a big chunk of $$ to go to the SL, you might be best served financially to stay within their system especially if they are getting good health care.
I know you want to keep them together. But maybe mom's needs are just so different from dad's that it really needs to be this way. Have you had a talk with social services regarding all this? If this is a skilled caregiver issue - by that I mean your mom needs medication or procedures done that require skilled nursing and there is not that level of nursing in the regular AL so that is why she needs to be in a level above your dad's AL - then you might be able to private pay for a LVN to do whatever is needed for mom's care. This will be frightfully expensive but could be a way to keep them together.
If you can try to get a real idea of what their needs are so that you can make sure that the next place you move them too, if you move them, can do the level of care that they need. You just don't want to move them and them 6 mos later go through this again. You don't want to get the 30 day notice and then have to be in a panic rush to find another place. Good luck.
Good luck and please check back,
Carol