I am my moms POA. I have been doing this since 2007. My dad just passed and I was his also. My mom has a small savings like $9000. She wants me to have it but I have a sister. My sister has done nothing to help my parents in years. I mean nothing. My husband says since I am in charge of moms life pretty much, I have the right to get some sort of pay. His moms lawyer had told him this when his mother passed, but he declined because he felt all his siblings helped out, and did not find it necessary. My parents let my sister buy their house for a lower amount than they could of gotten about 15 yrs ago. My sister also claimed they owed her $10,000 which they paid her back. I myself never asked for any money back when they were in financial trouble. They also never had anything legally done for my sister to buy me out, it was going to be both our house at one time but I bought my own when I got married. So, I got nothing out of that either. Am I sounding greedy if I talk to lawyer about this? Mom does not have much at all, and most of it will probably be spent on doctor bills and funeral expenses, but I dont know why I feel so funny about this. My sister and I do not speak, only when we have to, I have not felt like her sister in years, been thru a lot with her, she is all for herself, I know she will filp if she doesnt get a penny from mom. She recently got divorced and my brother in law bought her out and she got $120,000. Plus the $10,000 from my parents, plus lived there her whole life until now and paid whatever she could afford a month. They took care of her, her whole life even when she was married.
As far as what you've said about your sister and what your folks did for her or allowed her to do financially, they would've done the same for you if the roles were reversed. She sounds like she's kind of a mooch, but they still wanted to help her anyhow so you need to let that part go I think. If mom hasn't much money left, protect what she does have.
If you're already feeling guilty, then my guess would be that your instinct is she would want you to share equally.
O hear her mouth and would rather just spit it. I do feel I deserve it though. Thank you for your opinions.