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I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
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Jackson, If you didn't feel guilty at some point or even resentful, then you would not be a compassionate person. My brother does nothing for me or mom and he sleeps very well at night. We, the caregivers, are the ones who toss and turn. I found that this site, venting to people who understand and really care, has been a God send. Good luck and keep writing Linda
Don't feel guilty. It can take alot out of a person who is caregiver for one or both parents. My sister and I cared for our mother for several years until she died in 1994. Since her death I have been the primary caregiver for my father who is 88. Fortunately his mind is in good shape but he has many health problems. Now for several years my older sister has had a debilitating nerve disease so I try to help her too. I sometimes feel frustrated with all of this along with being unemployed for over a year. I also have never had the opportunity for dating or boyfriends. I can't help you, but I can say... don't feel guilty just do what you can yourself and solicit the help of others where possible so perhaps you can go out with friends or do something special you like
Jackson1. Feeling guilty about feelings of resentment is a normal response, and it means that you are a sensitive, empthathetic person. If you didn't feel guilty about being tired of having no life, then I would say you had something to worry about. Caring for aging or ill parents is a very difficult talk, especially for an only child, or the only child helping. Its important that you remind yourself that what you are doing is a labor of love, and what you are sacrificing is tough. Try to speak with caregivers who are in a similar situation as you. If you don't know anyone, reach out to a church group, or try to speak to your parents doctor. Or a close friend. Or even a therapist. The important thing is to talk about how you feel. It is important to verbalize our feelings and give them validity. Hang in there. As the sole caregiver for my parents, I know how you feel. But know that what you are doing is admirable, and at the end of the day you should be proud of yourself. Don't be too hard on yourself, and try to go out for a little while and enjoy yourself.
Jackson, I'm not sure how long since college has been for you, but I don't believe in feeling guilty over something such as this.
Circumstances are different for everyone. It is a fine line to define selfishness when caregiving for a parent(s). Many people that have been long time friends of my parents may feel that I am being too selfish when they look at my life and then how my parents are. But they also have not had to experience the emotional demands of Alzheimer's for one parent and severe major depression for the other parent. There is a lot of baggage that goes with that on top of a dysfunction parent-only child relationship as well.
Guilt can be dished out, but only I/you can choose to accept or reject it. If you know that you have done all you can and you have to recruit help, then why sweat it? If you haven't done enough in offering more care to your parent(s) is nagging at you, then perhaps things need to be examined. Only you can judge this.
Sometimes it is so easy to judge from the outside looking in, but being guilty is a choice in choosing to accept that guilt or not. Why are you feeling that guilt?
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
If you didn't feel guilty at some point or even resentful, then you would not be a compassionate person. My brother does nothing for me or mom and he sleeps very well at night. We, the caregivers, are the ones who toss and turn. I found that this site, venting to people who understand and really care, has been a God send. Good luck and keep writing
Linda
Circumstances are different for everyone. It is a fine line to define selfishness when caregiving for a parent(s). Many people that have been long time friends of my parents may feel that I am being too selfish when they look at my life and then how my parents are. But they also have not had to experience the emotional demands of Alzheimer's for one parent and severe major depression for the other parent. There is a lot of baggage that goes with that on top of a dysfunction parent-only child relationship as well.
Guilt can be dished out, but only I/you can choose to accept or reject it. If you know that you have done all you can and you have to recruit help, then why sweat it? If you haven't done enough in offering more care to your parent(s) is nagging at you, then perhaps things need to be examined. Only you can judge this.
Sometimes it is so easy to judge from the outside looking in, but being guilty is a choice in choosing to accept that guilt or not. Why are you feeling that guilt?