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A recovering alcoholic is not recovering at all if they're still drinking at 7am or at 7pm or any time in between. Sounds like you're enabling "her" to continue drinking while pretending to be a "recovering alcoholic".
My alcoholic Mom would be drinking at 7am while making breakfast for us before school. She'd pour bourbon in her coffee. She drank like this for 30 years. She made everyone's life miserable.
She is no "recovering" alcoholic. Drinking at 7am is FULL BORE. She will need antibuse or a recovery facility to ever quit.
You are enabling her addiction drinking anything with her as well. Shame on you.
I honestly think our OP kind of knows this. I almost don't believe this question. It made me want to say "Sure, why not. Alcohol is an option". It surely was for my MIL. Vodka and OJ helped her right on out of a troublesome life.
First off, "recovering alcoholics" Do Not Drink any longer. There's no info on your sister: age? Is she terminal? I'd say if she's terminal and absolutely will not survive 6 months then let her drink all she wants. If it brings her comfort and calms her, so be it! What's it going to hurt at this point.
She is not recovering if she is drinking. She is a alcoholic. Generally someone drinking in the morning has pretty advanced alcoholism.
How old is she? If she is in her 40's or 50's many still can heal from alcoholism. If she is in her 80's it is more of a long shot to heal from alcoholism.
I found a lot of help from me at AlAnon. My Dad was a drink in the morning alcoholic. I had to step away from it. I learned from AlAnon to take care of me and put the focus on me and not the alcoholic.
Alcoholics will seldom not find a way to get alcohol. In fact many of them can down a bottle of Listerine in days. You will not be able to control your sister's alcoholism. I would suggest that you might consider joining both AA and Al-Anon so that you can work on yourself, and your relationship to your alcoholic sister.
Do consider filling in your profile so that in future we may give you more in depth answers. Meanwhile attend AA for the sake of you both.
I haven't had a drink since 2008 and I'm STILL a recovering alcoholic. Make no mistake. Until the day I'm buried, sober, I'll be recovering, as there is no such thing as a "recovered" alcoholic. We're all but one drink (or one sip) away from relapse, which means, we're always recovering.
There really is not enough information. Does she have any other medical conditions? What is her age? If she has other medical conditions and or dementia stopping alone can be fatal depending on how much alcohol is consumed daily. (and I am guessing if she is drinking before 7am it is a lot) The fact that you are drinking with her may be problematic. How much are you drinking? Does it effect you capacity as a POA or caregiver if you are a caregiver? You stop drinking and you can help And I beg to differ....if she is still drinking she is not a "recovering alcoholic" she is an alcoholic. There is a good possibility that her doctor needs to be involved with the process. there are medications that can be given. BUT alcoholism is not just a physical addiction it is mental, emotional. Al-Anon for both of you would maybe help.
Tbh she’s not a recovering alcoholic she’s still drinking and you drinking with her isn’t helping you or her . We can only be responsible for ourselves so if she choices to drink there’s nothing you can do. I have a lot of life experience in these situations so I’m not trying to be rude or harsh I’m just being totally honest
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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She is no "recovering" alcoholic. Drinking at 7am is FULL BORE. She will need antibuse or a recovery facility to ever quit.
You are enabling her addiction drinking anything with her as well. Shame on you.
How old is she? If she is in her 40's or 50's many still can heal from alcoholism.
If she is in her 80's it is more of a long shot to heal from alcoholism.
I found a lot of help from me at AlAnon. My Dad was a drink in the morning alcoholic.
I had to step away from it. I learned from AlAnon to take care of me and put the focus on me and not the alcoholic.
Do consider filling in your profile so that in future we may give you more in depth answers. Meanwhile attend AA for the sake of you both.
Does she have any other medical conditions?
What is her age?
If she has other medical conditions and or dementia stopping alone can be fatal depending on how much alcohol is consumed daily. (and I am guessing if she is drinking before 7am it is a lot)
The fact that you are drinking with her may be problematic. How much are you drinking? Does it effect you capacity as a POA or caregiver if you are a caregiver?
You stop drinking and you can help
And I beg to differ....if she is still drinking she is not a "recovering alcoholic" she is an alcoholic.
There is a good possibility that her doctor needs to be involved with the process. there are medications that can be given. BUT alcoholism is not just a physical addiction it is mental, emotional.
Al-Anon for both of you would maybe help.
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