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She is a recovering alcoholic. I often drink with her but not at 7 am. I am her POA.

A recovering alcoholic is not recovering at all if they're still drinking at 7am or at 7pm or any time in between. Sounds like you're enabling "her" to continue drinking while pretending to be a "recovering alcoholic".
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She is not recovering if she is drinking. She is a alcoholic. Generally someone drinking in the morning has pretty advanced alcoholism.

How old is she? If she is in her 40's or 50's many still can heal from alcoholism.
If she is in her 80's it is more of a long shot to heal from alcoholism.

I found a lot of help from me at AlAnon. My Dad was a drink in the morning alcoholic.
I had to step away from it. I learned from AlAnon to take care of me and put the focus on me and not the alcoholic.
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Alcoholics will seldom not find a way to get alcohol. In fact many of them can down a bottle of Listerine in days. You will not be able to control your sister's alcoholism. I would suggest that you might consider joining both AA and Al-Anon so that you can work on yourself, and your relationship to your alcoholic sister.

Do consider filling in your profile so that in future we may give you more in depth answers. Meanwhile attend AA for the sake of you both.
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My alcoholic Mom would be drinking at 7am while making breakfast for us before school. She'd pour bourbon in her coffee. She drank like this for 30 years. She made everyone's life miserable.

She is no "recovering" alcoholic. Drinking at 7am is FULL BORE. She will need antibuse or a recovery facility to ever quit.

You are enabling her addiction drinking anything with her as well. Shame on you.
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AlvaDeer Sep 21, 2024
I honestly think our OP kind of knows this. I almost don't believe this question. It made me want to say "Sure, why not. Alcohol is an option". It surely was for my MIL. Vodka and OJ helped her right on out of a troublesome life.
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There really is not enough information.
Does she have any other medical conditions?
What is her age?
If she has other medical conditions and or dementia stopping alone can be fatal depending on how much alcohol is consumed daily. (and I am guessing if she is drinking before 7am it is a lot)
The fact that you are drinking with her may be problematic. How much are you drinking? Does it effect you capacity as a POA or caregiver if you are a caregiver?
You stop drinking and you can help
And I beg to differ....if she is still drinking she is not a "recovering alcoholic" she is an alcoholic.
There is a good possibility that her doctor needs to be involved with the process. there are medications that can be given. BUT alcoholism is not just a physical addiction it is mental, emotional.
Al-Anon for both of you would maybe help.
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First off, "recovering alcoholics" Do Not Drink any longer. There's no info on your sister: age? Is she terminal? I'd say if she's terminal and absolutely will not survive 6 months then let her drink all she wants. If it brings her comfort and calms her, so be it! What's it going to hurt at this point.
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Wow. I thought I’d seen it all on here, and now this. Irrational reasoning caused by alcohol is a main reason I avoid alcoholics.
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Anxietynacy Sep 21, 2024
I hear ya, same page as you!!!!
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Recovering alcoholics don’t drink. Kind of an oxymoron there
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Tbh she’s not a recovering alcoholic she’s still drinking and you drinking with her isn’t helping you or her . We can only be responsible for ourselves so if she choices to drink there’s nothing you can do. I have a lot of life experience in these situations so I’m not trying to be rude or harsh I’m just being totally honest
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I just want to say if your mom is a "recovered" alcoholic, there should be no alcohol in the house and you should never drink with her.

Secondly recovered alcoholic don't drink.

So she is not recovered.

My worry is though DTs for an older person can be deadly, so if she stops drinking make sure she does that with a doctor knowledge.
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Anxietynacy Sep 22, 2024
I just want to add that I am sorry if I offend any recovering alcoholics . Its a horrible thing to have to go through, and I commened everyone that has struggled with this.

I am a big pitcher person, not a detailed person. I didn't mean to say recovered, like it was not a huge deal. Looking at the Big pitcher, I don't see OP is the person that knows the difference of , recover, recovery, recovered or recovering, since she is asking this question.

But I didn't meant to offend anyone, for that I'm truly sorry.
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I haven't had a drink since 2008 and I'm STILL a recovering alcoholic. Make no mistake. Until the day I'm buried, sober, I'll be recovering, as there is no such thing as a "recovered" alcoholic. We're all but one drink (or one sip) away from relapse, which means, we're always recovering.
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