My mother has been in an assisted living facility for a year now, and is very content where she is. I only have extended family in that area, (aunt, uncle) who do not want the responsibility of checking on her or visiting her. I am being pressured to move her to my area, another state, so I can see her daily. I don't mind that at all, and would actually love to get to spend more time with my mother. The problem is she does not want to move. She has never lived anywhere else. Is it good to move someone against her will? (I have power of attorney). I just don't want to hurt her or send her into a depression.
Who is pressuring you to move her? Why?
You have POA, but is she still competent to make her own decisions? Does she have cognitive problems? Dementia?
Do you/could you talk to her by phone each day?
Your relatives should be informed that they are not expected to be her caregivers, but you would appreciate them visiting her as loving family members. Really! how much time does it take just to drop in and say hello?
If she needs more attention, hire a personal paid caregiver who can visit with her and do the things that the ALF does not cover. She can also report to you about her condition and needs.
good luck
If necessary, you can help her arrange for a personal care assistant to bring her cat food or take her shopping, etc.
Turn a deaf ear to the lectures. Mom would not be happy if you moved her from her home.