My parents have been married 72 years and currently live together in a personal care/memory care facility due to my dad having Alzheimers and my mother suffering from dementia along with other health issues. She is the one that needs the personal care for her mobility issues. He must be in a secure memory care as he is a flight risk. At this point he does at times still know who my mom is but most times he is confused about her identity, why she is there, wants her to leave, etc. He has become very vocal and spends a lot of the day yelling at her and it very upsetting for her. He is not physically abusive at all but he is literally driving the poor woman crazy. They have been together all these years so I am not sure if I should separate them into their own living spaces or not? I am worried that he will feel incredibly more isolated than he does already and that she will miss him if he is not there all the time as she has when he has been in the hospital in the past. Anyone that has any experience with this situation that can give some advise it would be so helpful. I am at a loss on what is the best thing to do for both of them
While she's staying separately, make sure that news of your father is edited to be reassuring. This is all about her wellbeing - his will be taken care of, of course, only not by her for the time being.
It may be worth a try if you can afford it, but hard to imagine whether or not it will work for better or worse.
Surely do wish you good luck and hope you'll update us.