My borther and I live with our dad. He's 87. My bro & I take dad to the doc, store, wherever he needs to go. But, we either buy what he needs or let him pay himself for his things. He has acquired quite a lot of debt in the past 2 years and we can't figure where his $$ goes except that our younger sister comes over before the 1'st every month to get our dad to pay her rent. During the month, she will show up once or twice a week to get him to go buy her groceries, toiletries, etc. She is 53 & lives in a nice 2 bedroom/2 bathroom apartment alone. She has taken care of dad for only 2 over-night trips to her place this entire year of 5 1/2 months, because he wanted her to do his hair. Dad has nothing to show for his debt. Nothing. He is on crutches & almost lost his big toe. H He was in the hospital for a week & we got a little break in his care. But, our sis would go visit him & sway nothing to my bro or I. I think she only visited there to get money. We have informed our oldest bro in Cali. several times, as he has POA & Medical POA. Meanwhile, when we take dad to the doc & he has to pay for something, He goes there in old torn clothes & shoes & refuses to buy new one because he say s he can't afford them. He makes, like $4500 a month! He owns his house. He was broke by the 8'th this month and using his credit card already. I was shocked because he also got his income tax refund and had picked out a bed we were supposed to go pick up this week. WHERE IS IT GOING & FOR WHAT??? What to do ???(He tells people he's broke "because he spends it all on his kids."--Not true. Only the one).????????? blou
Your profile says that your dad has alzheimers but it does not say if he has been ruled incompetent. This would be the main way to stop him from spending in this way. But for now, if hes competent then technically he could flush his money down the toilet if he show chooses (that's a little extreme but I think you understand my meaning. his money, his choice.)
Angel
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