Last September I needed to move my father into assisted living. His social security doesn't cover all the costs. My husband and I cover the rest of rent, personal expenses, insurance, etc. plus a huge expense to move him. My brother says he can't help out financially, but lives in a nice house, drive expensive car, etc. and now he is avoiding my calls, even though I have never pressured him to help. Just asked if he could give ANY support financially. Very sad that I have now lost a relationship with my brother and not sure how to salvage. Both Christmas and Fathers Day my brother told my dad he sent him a gift card, which my dad never got either. Think he is trying to give the appearance to my dad he is helping out, but he's not.
As for the gift card to your dad, deliver it yourself if you want to make sure he gets your gifts.
Finally, why are you all paying for your dad's care when his insurance should be paying this expense if he's on Social Security? This is not your responsibility, it's between your dad and his insurance to cover this expense for him
Spent a lot of months working through different avenues for state financial support. Dad was evicted from his home for not paying property taxes and home owners insurance. He was in a reverse mortag, so lost everything. No assets or insurance.
My husband and I are concerned about our own retirement if we are taking from our savings to help my dad. Will seek out an elder attorney in Texas. We are in California, so best to look in Texas I reckon.
Thanks again for some great advice on many levels! Amy
when you shouldn't be. You will be needing that for your own retirement, but then you already knew that.
I really do envy the quality and availability of your public information. Took me three minutes to ask the question and get an intelligible answer. Impressive. Try that in Whitehall, you'd wait four weeks for an email back and spend another six trying to translate the jargon. Though that might just be because they don't actually know the answer.