I need respite and my sibling has offered to help after two years of rare visits. She really is a person who does not respect how hard it has been to care for my mid-stage dementia parent. From past history I think she will cause stress to an already stressful situation. I have signs of it already. Anyway I don't have guardianship and hope this sibling will be content to visit. It could be the straw that breaks the camels back. I have some siblings who just don't get it and are main stresses in this caregiving journey. I don't want to place my mom yet but I don't have it in me to fight these siblings. Thanks for listening.
I really hope you can let go and have a great break and relax but dont expect your sister to be kissing your feet when you return she will be at the door with her bags packed!
If my siblings dont come up with a solution to mum when shes properly diagnosed IM OFF DONE this is not easy for one person to deal with and I cant do this on my own anymore.
It's unfortunately very common for siblings to disagree on parent care. It's even more common for them not to "get it" when one sibling does all of the work.
In the end, only you can decide what is more stressful - going along with them or fighting them.
You may want to read this Agingcare article: https://www.agingcare.com/articles/sibling-disputes-about-elderly-parents-care-134376.htm
It may help, if only to let you know that you're in good company.
Take care,
Carol