She is dead set against mother going to nursing home due to her getting over 3000.00 a month, fairly lucrative and I believe she just can't bring herself to do it either. That was a good suggestion about bringing her doctor in to talk with her or getting in touch with a local agency of the aging. I will try this. Mother has no advance directive though and my sister thinks she has all the power even though she works and leaves all the caregiving up to her husband and any one else that will do it in family but won't call in anyone who charges over 100.00/day. And no one can sit her who is not in the family.
I am a Family Meeting Facilitator for families with elder care issues. The family meeting includes education, alignment,mediation, an action plan and creating a team out of struggling siblings. Typically, we have several meetings. Depending upon location of sibs, we will meet either in person or on a conference calls.
Sibs often must overcome old patterns of triggering behavior so that they can care for their family members. Stress that comes from bickering siblings is very hard on elderly parents, not to mention being hard on the siblings, themselves.
It is very possible to find a way for even the most difficult families to find a more peaceful way of being together so they can take good care of their elders.
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Sue
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Carol