I am POA for my Dad who we’ve just moved to Assisted Living. As his POA I am selling his house to help fund his living expenses. I have been giving my siblings updates on how the House situation is going via e-mail because we are scattered across the country. My brothers and sister ganged up on me in a recent phone call. They didn’t feel like I should fix things on the house to sell it and that I should not organize and clean out drawers and cabinets. They said to not TOUCH any of their stuff. I told them I was separating things into boxes with each of their names on them so they could go through when the house sells and that I wasn’t throwing anything of theirs away. They want to come after it sells in July and go through everything then. My brother actually said “your POA don’t mean sh—t”. From what I understand about a POA, I don’t have to tell them anything about what I’m doing. It is between me and my Father. I am thinking of hiring a mediator or lawyer to be there when me and my siblings choose the remaining items. My brother has anger and authority issues and I’m sure he is mad that he wasn’t named POA. I am tired of him challenging every decision I make. Is it ok to stop sharing information and just tell him to back off?
If you do not understand what the rules are in being a fiduciary as a POA you should attend an attorney to be informed. It is a LEGAL obligation you cannot afford to get wrong. Keep meticulous records of every single penny in and every single penny out to start with. Your document allows that you are able to pay for expert advice. Please get it.
Just do what u need to do.
Jealousy can ruin relationships. No doubt, they aren’t in your corner, offering their support. I realize that it would be nice to have their support. I’m sure their behavior is causing additional stress for you.
You know what needs to be done in order to secure care for your dad. You do not need their permission or approval.
Respect goes both ways. You have shown them respect. They have not returned it. I’m so sorry.
Just continue to care of what is needed.
Inform them when they can come to pick up their belongings or if they need to have them shipped out to them.
They are unlikely to understand, but that’s why you were selected to be POA. Don’t worry about them, you’re doing what you need to do. A tidy, cleaned up home will sell better and get more viewings than one that looks like work needs to be done by the new owners. And frankly, it’s not their call to make.
Yes, there were some battles that I had to face, but I kept my cool, not letting anyone sabotage what I knew had to be done.
Keep your resolve do what is best for your father, it is just greed coming out, that is usually what happens, it is not about what is best for the LO.
Yes, move forward, you have no legal responsibility to tell your brother anything.
Good Luck!
An opinion is like an a******...everybody has one! You're not going to get the most money out of the house if it's not cleaned up, in good working condition and uncluttered. It's not like you're remodeling the kitchen. If there is a big ticket item that needs repair or replaced, your realtor can advise you if it makes sense to sell the house "as is" or fix it.
Don't bother with a mediator...just tell your siblings to help or bug off.
Keep doing what you want to do with what your father wants and if you have too put things in storage that belongs to them the rest sell for him to be in his place he is now.
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