Well after almost having a nervous breakdown from caring for my late father and my mother with alzheimers for the last 18 months, my brothers finally stepped in and took mom off my hands for a few days while I get some rest.
While on the phone with one of my brothers a bit ago he mentioned something about the bank accounts and why I had so many. After dad passed (A year ago) I opened up new ones with mine and mom's name on them. Well, apparently they took mom to the bank and convinced the bank manager to give them copies of the bank statements. The bank HAS ON FILE and legal documents of me being DPOA and that mom was incapacitated and could not make decisions. The bank did it anyway? Is this legal? Not that I really care if they see what's on them or not... I've told them many times I can't spend her money on anything but her ( I don't think they believed me)...not as if I go anywhere anyway to spend anything on either of us!
It's a damn shame that the past 18 months I've almost killed myself with stress/worry and lack of sleep that it took me flipping out on them for them to help me...But sneaking around to the bank is not helping me...
Why do I get the feeling that something else is going on?
I guess I was more "hurt" at what they did than anything else. Instead of talking to me they assume things. Instead of all 4 of us siblings working together, it's all been left up to me to figure out. You reach a point when you get so overwhelmed even the smallest of tasks seems huge and it becomes responsibility over-load!
I am so tired, too tired to even sleep good at night anymore.
but...
I worry.... who is gonna help her in and out of the tub, wash her hair? Help her change her clothes.... she told me tonight she wants to come home, or wherever I was at. She misses the dogs and "our routine".....and we miss her too. I feel bad that she's so confused being over at their house... it's full of deer horns/heads on the walls and he's not much of a cook!! I did give him a blank check to get enough food ( he asked for food money).
Learned lesson to not let myself get so physically/mentally burnt out again.