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As long as your FIL was competent at the time the will was drawn up and used a lawyer to draw up the will, there is nothing your SIL can gain. So let the them try and fight, they will end up with nothing but legal fees. Greedy people are nothing but bottom feeders!
We have gone thru similar. While it is easy to be angry at others around us for their bad decisions, the only person's actions you can ever control are your own. That is all you ever have to answer for. If your husband is not interested in any kind of relationship with his sisters, then the wishes of the father should be honored. My husband felt inclined to divide with his sisters so that on his part there was never any feeling of guilt. He said in HIS mind, he did the right thing. It's only money. Can't fix illness. If it could, would have given every penny to heal my dad from Alzheimers. Everyone has to live with their own choices. No right or wrong answer. God Bless.
Anybody can sue anyone, anytime. Whether they win or not is a whole other issue.
FIL is still living and has a will which reads as you described and your DH is named as the executor? Or property is in a trust and your DH is grantee. If all that is the case, you & your DH should be fine. Although I'd probably make sure I had the name of a couple of good probate or trust savvy attorney's to contact. She can upon letter of testamentary presentation in probate file a motion to have your DH removed as executor, but she has to have very specific verifiable documentation why your DH is unsuitable (like you are a felon). But your DH determines when probate is even opened, so she is at a disadvantage in knowing when this is filed.
If dad doesn't have a valid will or trust established, then this is a whole other issue and you either need to get something done asap if feasible.
Probate is all open, public records. (Trusts are totally private) If you don't offhand know a probate / estate attorney, you can probably go on-line to your county courthouse website. Most counties have is such that you can do on-line document requests. So go to the probate court records area & just start looking at filings from the last year. What will happen is that there will be a small group of attorneys who seem to do most of the work in probate in your county. Those are the guys with the experience and know the judges and the judges temperament and know how to "massage" property transfer/sell issues if need be. That is who I'd contact to be my attorney. Good luck, most threats are just pissy bluster.
If your sister disputes the will, possibly you could get statements from his various doctors that he was of sound mind. In addition, if he had two witnesses when signing the will, they should be able to testify that he was indeed of sound mind.
They can try but it might be unwise of your father-in-law to totally disinherit them unless he wrote a reason why in the will which would make it clear to a judge. Also, he should create a video version of himself reading and explaining the will to show he was competent.
Is there a reason your husband would not want to share with her,or is it you that doesn't want to share. Our family had a greedy caretaker took mother to attorney same day de informed us not to let her since any legal documents, what's that tell you!! Good luck ha be your husband talk to her civil so things flow smoothly.
My MIL had a wonderful attorney who really wanted to protect her wishes before she passed. Every legal document-(will, poa, codicil) that she filed was accompanied with a statement of competency from her doctor. It saved us a ton of headaches!
One can always challenge a will, but if it is "iron clad" as you say, then the chances are pretty slim it can be broken. Let your sister-in-law spend her money to try and in the end the Will probably will be upheld. If the notary who witnessed your father-in-law's signature can say he seemed of sound mind, without duress, it will hold. Family relationships usually get ugly when money is involved.
I am the caregiover and do not want a thing from him. My husband and I moved in with his dad, who at the time, my husband's sister was living there. Her crack addict boyfriend committed suicide in her bed. She stayed on street drugs and abused her prescription drugs. We tried many times to help her, committing her for rehab. She called the police many times, maing false accusations....been to court to have her evicted....she threatened to burn down the house and then we had to get a restraining order, as she was abusive to her father. There is just a piece of property, with ao old double wide and maybe enough life insurance to pay for his funeral and some old cc bills. There is nothing of value, other than some momentos,,which we have no problem with her having some things.
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Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
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We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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FIL is still living and has a will which reads as you described and your DH is named as the executor? Or property is in a trust and your DH is grantee. If all that is the case, you & your DH should be fine. Although I'd probably make sure I had the name of a couple of good probate or trust savvy attorney's to contact. She can upon letter of testamentary presentation in probate file a motion to have your DH removed as executor, but she has to have very specific verifiable documentation why your DH is unsuitable (like you are a felon). But your DH determines when probate is even opened, so she is at a disadvantage in knowing when this is filed.
If dad doesn't have a valid will or trust established, then this is a whole other issue and you either need to get something done asap if feasible.
Probate is all open, public records. (Trusts are totally private) If you don't offhand know a probate / estate attorney, you can probably go on-line to your county courthouse website. Most counties have is such that you can do on-line document requests. So go to the probate court records area & just start looking at filings from the last year. What will happen is that there will be a small group of attorneys who seem to do most of the work in probate in your county. Those are the guys with the experience and know the judges and the judges temperament and know how to "massage" property transfer/sell issues if need be. That is who I'd contact to be my attorney. Good luck, most threats are just pissy bluster.
My husband and I moved in with his dad, who at the time, my husband's sister was living there. Her crack addict boyfriend committed suicide in her bed. She stayed on street drugs and abused her prescription drugs.
We tried many times to help her, committing her for rehab. She called the police many times, maing false accusations....been to court to have her evicted....she threatened to burn down the house and then we had to get a restraining order, as she was abusive to her father.
There is just a piece of property, with ao old double wide and maybe enough life insurance to pay for his funeral and some old cc bills.
There is nothing of value, other than some momentos,,which we have no problem with her having some things.
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