My mom is frail and thin. All natural symptoms of aging. I got same service for her years ago when it pained me how much weight she was losing. She got better became more lucid because of the meals. Now years later she is same. My nephew keep saying she dont want it and stop inviting people in her house she dont want in there. Also she had tooth extraction. The dental visit was a secret but when she came I could see. When I set up her meds next day the case and meds are gone. Im an RN. Im baffelled. What should I do.
If your mother has dementia, she really shouldn't be living alone, not past the very early stages. Is someone mom's PoA? What is mom's relationship with this nephew. Who took her to the dentist, and why was it a secret?
Since you are now working you should move out. Do not invest any more money in the house. Once you are gone you can call APS and explain your concerns and they will investigate the situation. If they agree your mom is vulnerable they will hopefully take action. If they do not you will have removed yourself from a toxic situation and will need to take stock and learn to set boundaries and protect yourself from your dysfunctional family. Good luck.
Do you all live with your mom? You, your sister, and your nephew? Have you considered moving out?