My mom been living with me a year,I have poa of mom for 6yrs though.She needs help she has parkingson.She has a lot of tremers.my problem my sister didn't see her for a year,she comes in town she lives out of state ,and says she wants to see mom,but on her terms,and says if I can't see her I will call office of aging and find you unfit to take care of her.i never said she couldn't see her but she has to go around our schedule my mom has a lot of appt.this week.My mom gets upset because my sister is always trying to cause trouble for me and says things to people that isn't true.Does my mom have to see my sister if she really doesn't,Or is it best for her to see her ,I don't like seeing my mom get upset,last time she called office of aging they came and closed the case after they talked to my mom and me.Is there anything I can do if my sister keeps saying things to people that isn't true.i just want to take care of my mom the best as I can and as long as I can.what can I do if she keeps threating me or my mom?
Do you keep a log of your sister's actions and contacts? You may need the written evidence in the future.
No, your mom doesn't have to see her if she makes that decision. For the sake of family, maybe there's a way to sit down with a separate mediator to clear the air. Is there another trustworthy relative or close friend who is willing to broker a peace?