My mother has alz and dad is blind with dementia. Years ago they chose me as POA. Not my sister as she and her husband have borrowed money often and are slow to pay back. My sister's husband has been arrested for several questionable business dealings. Well as soon as I started enforcing the dr. and GCM advice (hiring outside help, taking away checkbook, keeping appointments with Alzheimer dr.,) my parents got angry and said I was overreacting and got my sister on board. Now they are trying to revoke my POA. The bank called and told me my sister and they were at the bank to take the money out. I quickly transferred the money into my acct. and called my lawyer. I don't want to use their money like this. My sister said she would never speak to me again and her husband said I am dead to him. My parents trusted me to take care of them and I hope I am doing the right thing. Am I? I am trying to protect my parents but it is hard to hear them question me now and tell me to let go.
And, you don't care for your BIL's comments, do you, surely? What can his good opinion be worth to anyone, I'd like to know.