His brain is now damaged and can't go to SSA. Before my father became ill, he took care of everything he thought we would need, including naming my mother & me as POAs.
When my father started getting sick, my parents moved to a senior facility. We input change of address forms with the Post Office. They do not provide cards any longer for notifying people so one has to rely on the PO to take care of changes. They only do it for 6 months & then stop. Because my father got really bad within 6 months of moving, he was not mentally able to help us do much, and as things have progressed it has become worse. He is now completely bed bound. The best answers one can get from him are yes and no, but one never knows if that is what he really means. Because his legs have now pulled up in a permanent fetal position (can't even be pulled down), we cannot even get him to a car. If he has to go somewhere, it has to be by ambulance.
This year we did not get tax forms from SSA. So we got a caregiver for Daddy and I loaded Mama and all the legal papers up and we drove to the other side of the county to go to SSA. They refused to give us the tax information or change his address because they "don't recognize powers of attorney". They wanted me to bring Daddy in for him to give them permission to let me do the business. I explained why that was impossible. It did not matter. Does anyone know if this is true? Why would an agency that deals with the aged and/or ill people not recognize a POA? People are encouraged to get things ready for the possibility they may not always be able to handle their own affairs & the main agency for dealing with them refuses to honor the written, notorized wishes of the disabled? It just does not make sense. What really is crazy is the military has helped us get things changed, IRS has changed things for us. All of these Federal agencies recognize the POA. Why not SSA?
Has anyone else run into this issue?
Good luck. We can all use advice on this.
Carol
When her checking account builds up to a significant amount I write out a check and we take it to the credit union and deposit into her saving account, not into mine. Yes we have separate savings account at the credit union. Should an audit be done by medicare, medicaid, or SSA it should show these transaction clearly for them.
I pay all of the bills, including any co-pays for her medical treatments.
I am working on getting myself appointed as her guardian. That is taking nearly a year to do.Our only judge that handles that was just removed from the bench for fraud investigation along with his alleged co-conspirator.
Since I don't have anything giving me any sort of poa it gets a little difficult getting her care beyond our PCP. So I just let them play their little game until they determine she can't make the decision or answer their questions correctly.
I did find an elder care attorney and am just waiting fr something from him on our next step. As far as I can see the next step may be income tax returns. But our attorney is also a CPA so I should be able to get some guidance from him.
My wife did not have any sort of DPOA expressing her wishes so I may run into some trouble there.
This thread has been very helpful to me.