I have called and called and called a company called Heartland to ask for the social worker assigned to us to come to the house and help us. I have found out from the nurse from Heartland that the daughter in law of the person I care for phoned Heartland and spoke to the social worker, and instructed all the staff NOT to talk to us. Since then, 2 weeks ago, the bank statement arrived today. Forty thousand dollars is gone. One was cash withdrawn and the other was a check. I am the carer. But I don't want to get involved in their family issues/dysfunction. Even though the son is the POA, there was no need for the money, nor any instruction to have 40G go to the son. this person I care for needs that money to survive. Who can I call for help, the police? Because Heartland has let us down.
For all the work I do for this person, it never exhausts me. However, the POA stresses me out and exhausts me mentally. I keep begging the person I care for to speak up to the son because I'm tired of speaking for them. It's time for them to speak up while they still can.
People could look at the situation and believe that you are just looking out for your own self interest in staying in the house. How old is the woman we're discussing here?
It's admirable you're caring for your neighbor and are interested in protecting them but this could become a real mess with you coming out on the losing end. If you feel you have to do something, report your suspicions to Adult Protective Services in the county where you neighbor lives. However, I must say that while they may in fact, look into the situation, I doubt if they'll tell you much either.
https://www.agingcare.com/articles/elderly-financial-abuse-exploitation-prevention-137716.htm
that says to call an elder abuse line. But the link doesn't go anywhere.
My suspicion has always been that the son and daughter in law (who are on the title of the house) want their parent in a nursing home, and to sell the house. So as long as I'm here, there is help and we can stay here. IF I leave, off to a nursing home for my friend :(
If you are not being paid, I think you should consider leaving this position and getting a paid one elsewhere.
You are clearly a skilled worker and could earn a good wage elsewhere. Why would you put of with this?
And more importantly, who is Heartland and what is their relationship in this to you or the person you're calling about?