Is mothers that are hateful when younger become ubearable to be around with this desease?I know how u feel about the grossness . Mother cusses and voilent, believe this me just walking into a room sets her into a rage. Ihare for hurtful words scars. I pray i can get her help fast. So need a peace mind And a break.
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If she is downright insulting and cruel, you can just leave or like the above comments stated, bring someone with you. Don't respond to the negativity if it is cruel. They want a reaction, whether negative or positive. So there's two sides to the coin: nastiness because they're just cranky and not feeling well, and then you have nastiness because they are somehow seeking out some sort of revenge for whatever reason that YOU do NOT have to tolerate. And remember, the more words you speak, the less they listen. I learned that the hard way.
I don't know if that helped any, but that's what I've been learning in my experience with this sort of thing.
Good luck and guard yourself from the negativity. Be strong!
It's important to remember that what we do to help people like this is by CHOICE. In many cases, we may feel worse by NOT helping these abusive crabby cakes than we do by listening to their vitriolic baloney. If we chose NOT to help, after all, it's not as if they'll be floated out to sea on an iceberg.
SOMEtimes, when we remember we have a choice in the matter, it becomes easier to tune out their baloney. I hope in some small way this gives you some small peace.
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