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Michael, I noticed one of your another questions had to do with wanting to sue a hospital because a patient was discharged and a taxi took him home. You received 4 excellent answers. There wouldn't have been any reason to add any more, as the 4 covered everything.
Sometimes we just don't know the answer, or as freqflyer said, someone answered it so well, there was nothing more to add. Also, in my case, if it is a question I can identify with, especially emotionally, and if I went through the same thing, maybe figured out how to deal with it, I would answer. If not, I probably wouldn't respond.
Answering the question about how many responses a thread is going to get: 2-3 or 20-21 answers, when the OP has moved on and started a new question, maybe they're just not going to get anymore answers. However, the thread can take on a life of it's own, unrelated to the original poster, so responses may have little to do with you personally, oOMichaelOo. Welcome to your new cyber-fam, like it or not!
I had to laugh.. but not at you! I can;t always figure who is a male or who is a female.. I thought Freqflyer was fred flyer for the longest time.. and she know it (now at least.. hee hee) Our names are often gender neutral.. so that certainly does not factor into my answers!
Personally, I prefer to hang out with the cheerleaders - or the jocks...just kidding! I pretty much only answers questions where I have some knowledge or experience. You'll never see a VA answer from me, for example - I have zero knowledge in that area. Bump your own question back to the current first page if you'd like people to take another shot at it. Also, seems a lot of questions get asked in the mornings so those are the ones that get pushed back faster. Not a guy thing or a clique thing or a popularity thing - I think everyone here pretty much tries to be as helpful as they possibly can be - were all passengers on the aging/caregiver train.
You can delete a question if you don't post it first, but not afterwards. The only thing that can be deleted is comment under your profile picture that will only show in your newsfeed. Unless someone checks your newsfeed or is following you, they will not see the comment there. This would explain why no one answered.
When I asked my question my mum had fallen down the stairs and after that she was wetting the bed, there was no UTI, I deleted the question by just hitting delete, I did wonder if I posted correctly, but now after upping vitamins b she seems to have gone back to not wetting the bed. This site is fantastic I visit everyday.
twopupsmom and LivingSouth. I have been on here a few years. I have posted 12,000 answers and comments. You do not have to be female to get an answer from me. You don't have to be part of the in crowd (whatever that might be). I have developed cyber relationships with some of posters here. Often they are people with whom I agree a lot, but I don't think there is anyone here that I don't sometimes disagree with. And I certainly don't limit my answers to only my cyber-friends. (I have never met anyone on here in person.)
So, why would I skip a post without answering or commenting?
1) I didn't see the post. If I'm off a day or so I miss posts. 2) I saw it but I had no answer and/or no experience related to it 3) Other people already gave the same answer I would. I click "helpful" to show I agree
That's it. No mysterious conspiracies. No playing favorites. No discrimination.
I'm sorry that you two have had experiences that have lead you to these theories about why some posts don't get a lot of answers.
Oh, I don't read those, either. I leave those for the people who are newer to the group. I sometimes join in the "I hate my siblings" posts if I'm teed off at one of them. You'll find me most in the "Let's throw Mama from the Train" messages. :-O It certainly helps me to know I am not alone struggling with a difficult parent.
Jessie makes a good point. I'll offer a different, more frank insight: there are some questions that are asked so often, over and over, that sometimes posters get tired of answering them.
I'm also not as kind as Jessie; I don't even bother to read "how do I get paid" or "I hate my siblings" posts.
I've been with the group for a long time. Some questions ask about things no one knows about. Other questions come at times that they get quickly pushed to the bottom and off the page. Often I click to look for unanswered questions to bump them back to the top of the page where they will be visible again. Sometimes this gets some answers. Other times not.
There are some very helpful people here. You'll often find them talking in other threads, but they only have so much time.
Then, of course, there are the How Do I Get Paid threads. These threads are important, but we see them every day and know there are no easy answers. Anyway... if you're not being answered, it isn't personal. Something you can do is what I do. I work what I have to say in with other relevant threads. That way I don't get ignored. :)
Only thing I can add is that some of the women on here seem to have relationships with some of the other women, so maybe being a guy is a disadvantage ?( though it happens to women posters sometimes, too)
Michael, one of your questions had to do with Medicaid/Med-Cal which sounds like something for the State of California.
Please note those of us here on this website are from around the world.... I am from Virginia, so I would have no knowledge how the Medicaid system works in California.
Each State has their own rules, regulations, and programs. Thus, you would need to wait for someone to answer who is from California and is familiar with the current process. There are times when there is no one on-line during that time frame that is familiar with the process.
Michael, I'm going to be very blunt here, and perhaps offend someone, but you asked a legitimate question.
Skim through the posts that have so many answers and you'll find emotional issues, sometimes very, very emotional issues. These kinds of issues literally reach out and grab posters who try to help solve other people's problems.
Some of the issues seem to be fictitious or doubtfully true, and those posts often go on and on.
Some of the original posts take circuitous turns with their claims, and the responses follow those turns. Some are just toying with posters, playing games.
But others express legitimate emotional, traumatic issues that reflect extreme distress. It's natural that posters try to help others in these kinds of severe situations.
The innate female desire to help seems to be at play here; post a sob story and you'll get more responses than if you asked for specific information.
Michael, chances are the first or second person who did answer you had the best answer, thus others aren't going to answer with the same answer.
Under each post you will see "thumbs up -"helpful answer", if you see many who agreed with that first or second answer, no need to re-write the answer.
backinblighty, curious how were you able to "delete" your question? This website doesn't have that option or did you ask the Admin to delete the question?
cwillie, I do the same thing, if the post is really really long, with no paragraph breaks, I usually find it too complex and I get lost. Too much for these tired old eyes :P
Sometimes we just don't have the answer, this is a community forum after all and we are not experts, only caregivers going through similar experiences. Sometimes questions are so long and rambling that readers like me can't be bothered trying to sort through it all. Sometimes the same thing has been asked so often on site that we get weary of providing the same answers over and over, often posters would do well to search the site for similar questions before posting. Keeping all that in mind, I usually do try to respond to a post that has no replies if I have anything to say at all, sometimes that gets others attention. Don't give up!
Sometimes a large number of questions get posted in a short period and a few of them tend to get shuffled to the bottom.
I see that your questions tend to be for specific factual information, for example, about finding information about military service. It is likely that not many people have had that need or experience, so few answer. Or if the first post answers the question others see no need to repeat it.
If you feel your question has not been answered and you still need more information, try responding to your own post and rephrase the question or explain more about it.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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2-3 or 20-21 answers, when the OP has moved on and started a new question, maybe they're just not going to get anymore answers. However, the thread can take on a life of it's own, unrelated to the original poster, so responses may have little to do with you personally, oOMichaelOo. Welcome to your new cyber-fam, like it or not!
Go to some of the very long threads.....
So, why would I skip a post without answering or commenting?
1) I didn't see the post. If I'm off a day or so I miss posts.
2) I saw it but I had no answer and/or no experience related to it
3) Other people already gave the same answer I would. I click "helpful" to show I agree
That's it. No mysterious conspiracies. No playing favorites. No discrimination.
I'm sorry that you two have had experiences that have lead you to these theories about why some posts don't get a lot of answers.
Seems like EVERYBODY ELSE BUT ME has a good answer.
I'm also not as kind as Jessie; I don't even bother to read "how do I get paid" or "I hate my siblings" posts.
There are some very helpful people here. You'll often find them talking in other threads, but they only have so much time.
Then, of course, there are the How Do I Get Paid threads. These threads are important, but we see them every day and know there are no easy answers. Anyway... if you're not being answered, it isn't personal. Something you can do is what I do. I work what I have to say in with other relevant threads. That way I don't get ignored. :)
Please note those of us here on this website are from around the world.... I am from Virginia, so I would have no knowledge how the Medicaid system works in California.
Each State has their own rules, regulations, and programs. Thus, you would need to wait for someone to answer who is from California and is familiar with the current process. There are times when there is no one on-line during that time frame that is familiar with the process.
Skim through the posts that have so many answers and you'll find emotional issues, sometimes very, very emotional issues. These kinds of issues literally reach out and grab posters who try to help solve other people's problems.
Some of the issues seem to be fictitious or doubtfully true, and those posts often go on and on.
Some of the original posts take circuitous turns with their claims, and the responses follow those turns. Some are just toying with posters, playing games.
But others express legitimate emotional, traumatic issues that reflect extreme distress. It's natural that posters try to help others in these kinds of severe situations.
The innate female desire to help seems to be at play here; post a sob story and you'll get more responses than if you asked for specific information.
Under each post you will see "thumbs up -"helpful answer", if you see many who agreed with that first or second answer, no need to re-write the answer.
backinblighty, curious how were you able to "delete" your question? This website doesn't have that option or did you ask the Admin to delete the question?
cwillie, I do the same thing, if the post is really really long, with no paragraph breaks, I usually find it too complex and I get lost. Too much for these tired old eyes :P
Sometimes questions are so long and rambling that readers like me can't be bothered trying to sort through it all.
Sometimes the same thing has been asked so often on site that we get weary of providing the same answers over and over, often posters would do well to search the site for similar questions before posting.
Keeping all that in mind, I usually do try to respond to a post that has no replies if I have anything to say at all, sometimes that gets others attention. Don't give up!
I see that your questions tend to be for specific factual information, for example, about finding information about military service. It is likely that not many people have had that need or experience, so few answer. Or if the first post answers the question others see no need to repeat it.
If you feel your question has not been answered and you still need more information, try responding to your own post and rephrase the question or explain more about it.