My mother lives with me. She's 72 years old. My job requires that I travel and I'm away Sunday evening through Thursday/Friday evenings. On Saturdays and Sundays i do 'catch up' things by doing housework, laundry, pill distribution, spending quality time with her, etc. She has vertigo and horrible lower back arthritis. Lately, I only find a single night gown or undergarment in the laundry some weeks. I'm concerned her hygiene might be suffering. How can a son lovingly find out if mom is bathing regularly. She's always been a very fastidious person with regard to hygiene. Is it time to have someone come in to help?
If it's 'nagging' you and you feel that 'something' isn't as it should be, when it comes to your mom, then I'd say you're generally 'right'. Hope it works out for the both of you. Blessings.
She may not need full-time care yet, but maybe just a personal assistant to help her with bathing and housekeeping. It sounds like a good idea to me.