She goes to the local senior center once a week because I volunteer there. She will not go additional days. I manage her finances, doctor appts., and take her out to eat and to food shop. She is not grateful and has said it is my job to make her happy. She is jealous and envious of my new relationship,my job and pretty much anything that makes me happy. I've struggled over the last 1 1/2 years with this and don't want to live with her anymore. I've tried talking to her about how our relationship would be better if we lived separately, but she will not talk about it and gives me the silent treatment. I have DPOA, but do not want to "force" her to move into senior living. She will not allow a visiting caregiver or anyone else to live in the home. What are my options? I don't feel right moving out as she has early stages of dementia. I am 61 years old.
Regardless, make your plans to move out on your own. I don't mean tomorrow, but if you have a plan you are working towards, it is an incentive for her to 'move along' as well. Good luck.
if she's able, I'd take her on some tours of independent/assisted living facilities. I'd make plans to move out and talk about them. Don't argue, just explain that this is better for both of you. Allow her to make the choice, care in her home by an agency or a nice facility.
. "Those are the choices, mom. You are allowed to choose from those two. " and no, it's not your job to entertain her.