Step-father is no longer living with us and stepped away from Mom's care. There has always been issues between all of us as mum kept going back to him over the past thirteen years. Now mum has dementia and I had to become her full time career, he believes that I am the enemy of their happiness and must go. All I do is mainly attend to mums hygiene, diet and wellbeing. I have repeatedly expressed that I don't want to interfere in their relationship and that I'm just there to care for mum. He talks to her about his issues with the situation and how I'm effecting their time together and changing her home, her life and whatever else that he has issues with. His arguments are one sided, warped and ill informed. I defend my position by stating that I'm here to just look after her. Mum settles down until the step gets another bee in his bonnet. Now he is becoming physically violent towards me as well as verbal and physical intimidation. I just want to ensure my mum is living a safe and happy life. I'm worried what he will do next to me and my mums safety. Please help.
It sounds as though your mum might be better served in a facility. That would serve the dual purpose of keeping both of you safe from him, as there would always be others around if he visited. Something to consider.
Did you move in with your mum?
Or contact the local police to ask for advice; that will lay the groundwork for documenting your concern about his interference and potential violence.
I'm wondering as well what brought him back. If your mother has some assets he wants, that may be his motivation.
They will remove him if it is your house. So which is it?