He has done so many other hurtful things as well. He threw her kitty cats out of the house. They all have to live on their own and they’ve never been out of the house in their 13 yrs of life. I am trying to re-capture all of them and at least get them to a shelter. He has chopped down all of her trees in their that were in their front yard. He stopped watering anything which has killed all of her bushes and her roses everything that meant anything to her. He states he cannot take care of any of the things that she did because she just does not have the time. I think that something has snapped and I don’t know if this is proof that I may seek power of attorney over his mental health or not? His boss has really dug his way into my stepfather‘s life. And he is going gambling with him all the time I fear that the next move will be that he asked him if he can be power of attorney on the house you never know when someone will do such a thing. My stepfather speaks of this man is the smartest man on earth and he admires him so very much. If he continues at this pace of gambling he will be completely broke within 8 to 10 months.
Could you explain how old he is, and how long he had been caring for your mother before her death? Have you had a good relationship up to now? Did he inherit the house and all her assets, so that the gambling is getting through funds that your mother would have expected to come to you? Does he understand the options and costs for his own care in future?
If you can’t deal with him, it would be good if you could find someone who could talk things through with him. You can’t ‘seek POA’, he has to want to give it to you, but if you think that he has really lost it, guardianship is always an option. Otherwise you may have no alternative except to walk away. You have my sympathy. Families can be awful, step families can be even worse.
Gambling is so destructive.
Do you have any way to stop him from transferring the house or is he the property owner now that your mom has passed?
Would your mom really want you to be subjected to this behavior, it is obviously different than what she anticipated happening. Or he is using gambling to make himself forget his loss.
If you think that this person is financially exploiting your stepdad in his vulnerable position you can file a report with metro. The elder abuse laws in Nevada have some very serious teeth. Use them to help protect your SD from losing everything at a time he may be out of his right mind because of his loss.