I sent a question in earlier about me being the only caregiver to my 85 and 89 yr old parents. I can't get them to let me hire a caregiver to help me take care of them. As the days go by my work intensifies and I am getting really tired. I can't leave for more than an hour at a time. My problem now is that my dad has become increasingly frustrated at my mom, he tells her she can walk when she can't. He'll tell her to sit in her chair and when she does try to walk he either gets mad at her for risking falling. He's just not being nice at all. How do I get him to stop treating and talking to her so badly? I know he's frustrated b/c he can't do anything to help b/c he's in a chair. She's going for a wheelchair assessment in a couple weeks, but until then I'm afraid he's just losing patience.
It sounds like you may need to start looking for alternative living arrangements for your parents.
The situation as it is can't continue if for no other reason than it will take your health down along with theirs.
Please keep looking for outside help and let us know how you are doing.
Carol