I have been my mothers DPOA since 2013. She is currently visiting other relatives in Minnesota which I did not send her there originally. She was sent to Texas to visit her other daughter, then was flown to Minnesota and has been there since. Recently the relatives had coaxed my mother of changing address, bank accounts, insurance, etc.... My mother is competent and I had made sure that all financial facilities were notified that I had been DPOA. This started because my mother had fallen in April and was not taken to her doctors appointments thereafter. So I reported to the state of MN of neglect on August 20, which is under investigation. Meantime, she was brought into the bank by her grandson's wife to stop the account and then withdrawal over a $1000. I have approached the bank here where we live and DPOA was on file, but in the state of MN was not recognized. How can I stop the relatives? Isn't this fraud? financial exploitation from relatives? How can a patient with Alz/dementia stage 6, make financial decisions?
I would consult with an Elder Law attorney to get the law on your DPOA. If mother is competent, how does the DPOA come into play? I might also ask about reporting the events to law enforcement, if she isn't competent. You say that one investigation with social services is under way about a fall. Do they know all that's going on? Are these financial things legit. I'd be very suspicious and have it checked out.
It is your duty as POA to protect her from everyone who could get their mits on her money and also protect her from herself.
I would also throw the fear of God into your family members by saying they will be prosecuted for having coerced a demented loved one into giving them money. Tell them they could serve jail time!
Why is she traveling around the country with Alzheimer's anyway?
Take away any bank information so she will not be able to call them or give them an account number. Make sure your name is on her accounts and alert the bank as to her dementia.
I fought with mother's bank to close down her credit card. They had a copy of her doctors' statement of Alzheimer's AND my POA. Only thing that got them to cooperate was I told them THEY would be responsible any charges as of my notification. They closed it within 1 week.
Gotta' play hard ball sometimes.
In my state, Social Services is useless in trying to save old people from exploitation. There appears to be no way to stop the exploitation w/o engaging an attorney. If you do this, be sure to get one who specializes in "elder law."
It's a pity you didn't set the bank accounts up to require signatures from both of you, but too late now.
If you figure out how to solve this problem satisfactorily, I will read the solution eagerly. It might help someone I know who is being taken advantage of.