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I have promised updates. My mom is a little more lucid right now and I am acting fast. She went back yesterday with myself and her sister to look at the apartment at AL again. Of course she found negatives (as usual), but she has AGREED to try it. Halleluiah!!! I have called and set up the movers, called and reserved the apartment. Next week, I will be free of the care giving duties that have actually been slowly sucking the life right out of me. My family may actually see a smile back on my face. I know this is not a quick fix, but it is a very good start. Thanks again for the support to do what I have been needing to do for a long time.
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Good for you - and also, your mom. Now, don't let her cling to you by telephone. She will be fine.
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May I suggest you have her MD prescribe an anxiolytic to start the day before the move? It will make a world of difference.
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Great suggestion pst

jewel - woo hoo!!!
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So happy for you jewel tone yes do not let her be clingy to you when she makes the one they have to find their own adjustment and trust me from someone who has just gone through the process it's very easy to get sucked in every single day even after they move. I am just now learning to pull back a month and a half later as my mom is still making me nuts but now atleast I go to sleep at night knowing she is not alone at home and so done is there is she needs help. The peace I have when I go to sleep is priceless I wish I could say the adjustment was too but my mom still continues to think she will go home soon and finds every little negative thing. To cling to.
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Great news, Jewel.
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jeweltone, can you afford Assisted Living, for the rest of her life?
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I agree with Chicago - don't let her harass you by phone every day. My mother did it from the nursing home for 16 months, screaming tantrums every day, until I had a mini stroke and changed my phone number. Her dementia is full blown and I just can't deal with the looney tunes.
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Affording assisted living for the rest of someone's life is probably not feasible for most if they live 20 or 30 years. My mom is still young at 68. I am looking for the right now. What is best for my mom right now. With dementia, yes, she could live 20 more years, but right now she cannot be alone and gets confused. I have to do what is best now. I will worry about 2034 when it gets closer, but thanks for your concerns. Ashlynne, yes I am worried about the phone calls and I am preparing myself for what I will do. She is somewhat lucid right now and can have a decent conversation. As we all know, these days/weeks don't last long. My mom usually loses it again after two weeks. I moved her furniture in yesterday (thursday) we are waiting on a piece of new furniture she ordered to come in. She wants to wait, I know this is to stall, but at least we are on the way.
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Jewel I guess the progression of mental and physical issues varies from person to person. Spring of last year I was able to take my mother out to the hairdresser and short shopping trips. When I dropped by the NH yesterday she was unable to speak and totally out of reality.
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