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A little more detail would help... who is this person POA for, and are they now mentally incompetent? The simplest way to do this is to have the person who granted the POA write a new one and revoke the previous one. If they are unable to do that then it gets more complicated, but if the POA is doing things that are not in the best interest of the person who granted their authority they can be removed... you will need to seek legal advice on the steps necessary to do that. If there is no alternate named, you may need to seek guardianship since by having the original person removed you will be unable to replace them.
The person you described, in my opinion, had far more mental health problems than just bipolar which contributed to the bad behavior. People with bipolar disorder either become manic which can reach the extreme of psychotic in which they think that have super ability or depressed in either a rapidly cycling mode or slower mode. From my reading about bipolar disorder, I have not seen anything about being mean as a symptom. Your comments only add the stigma that society has about people with a mental illness. We are far more likely to be the victim of violence than commit violence.
If you are the one issuing the POA for yourself, it's normally as simple as contacting your lawyer to draw up a new document, and ripping up the old one and telling your former POA you have assigned a new one. If the person who wants to reassign the POA is competent, they can do that too. It's up to the attorney to determine if the person is competent to assign POA, which is a legal not medical question.
Concerned4mom, if the person who has the DPOA is mentally ill and currently unable to perform these duties you should probably have it revoked. Is your mom able to do this? Does she have dementia or some other condition that renders her unable to revoke it? If so, you should contact an elder law attorney for advice and help in this matter. Many mental health issues can be treated (the same as physical issues) with the proper medication, but of course you need to take the medication. Have you talked with your mom about your concerns? Or is she unable to help in this regard? I think if you gave us all more information about the situation you may get more helpful answers to your question. Blessings, Lindaz.
Our parents deliberately chose as DPOA the middle son. Our oldest brother (now deceased) was dxed with so many mental disorders he was a walking textbook on them. Never medicated, never "OK". Younger brother is the calmest, most "with it" guy I know. He handles whatever comes along with peace and never lets anything get under his skin. There's 5 of us surviving kids, he handles the stuff mother needs and unless I flat out ask him how things are (financially or medically) with her, he never says anything. Mr. "no drama". It's great. I know quite a few people who are bipolar. On meds, they are usually fine and function well. Off meds, it's another story. POA's can be reassigned at the will of the person. If they are not able to make the "call" due to their own aging and mental capacity, I'm sure that a dr's "testimony" to the fact and a lawyer's touch would make things move along. If you feel your loved one is being taken advantage of by this person with POA, stand up and say something. Until you actually change the POA status, that's about all you can do.
Does this person have the tendancy to go off their bi polar meds and then end up in the hospital? It's not unusual for mentally ill people to do that and if they have POA over someone, it has the potential to be really bad news. I would talk to APS and an elder care attorney.
Does this person have the tendancy to go off their bi polar meds and then end up in the hospital? It's not unusual for mentally ill people to do that and if they have POA over someone, it has the potential to be really bad news. I would talk to APS and an elder care attorney.
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APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
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We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
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APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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The simplest way to do this is to have the person who granted the POA write a new one and revoke the previous one. If they are unable to do that then it gets more complicated, but if the POA is doing things that are not in the best interest of the person who granted their authority they can be removed... you will need to seek legal advice on the steps necessary to do that. If there is no alternate named, you may need to seek guardianship since by having the original person removed you will be unable to replace them.
The person you described, in my opinion, had far more mental health problems than just bipolar which contributed to the bad behavior. People with bipolar disorder either become manic which can reach the extreme of psychotic in which they think that have super ability or depressed in either a rapidly cycling mode or slower mode. From my reading about bipolar disorder, I have not seen anything about being mean as a symptom. Your comments only add the stigma that society has about people with a mental illness. We are far more likely to be the victim of violence than commit violence.
Younger brother is the calmest, most "with it" guy I know. He handles whatever comes along with peace and never lets anything get under his skin. There's 5 of us surviving kids, he handles the stuff mother needs and unless I flat out ask him how things are (financially or medically) with her, he never says anything. Mr. "no drama". It's great.
I know quite a few people who are bipolar. On meds, they are usually fine and function well. Off meds, it's another story.
POA's can be reassigned at the will of the person. If they are not able to make the "call" due to their own aging and mental capacity, I'm sure that a dr's "testimony" to the fact and a lawyer's touch would make things move along.
If you feel your loved one is being taken advantage of by this person with POA, stand up and say something. Until you actually change the POA status, that's about all you can do.
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