My husband and I have a fabulous relationship with his dad. My mother in law has dementia and it's getting worse. She is still at home and dad is her caregiver. The family offers help but he says it's his own responsibility to care for her. Any suggestions on how to gently take action to help?
Elders are very proud and don't want to give up their independence, plus your Dad is old school.
You could approach it as "Dad, we don't want you to get sick too"
This is what we want to do to help. It will take moving slowly.
Help with meals and laundry and general cleaning. Tell him it will give him more 1 on 1 time with his wife. More quality time.
I had my mom in a daycare facility that specialized in dementia care, they had various levels of care and support groups for spouses and caregivers. The experience was invaluable to me. My mom enjoyed going, she was entertained all day and had fun. Dad may also enjoy the break. Everyone may benefit from this type of scenario.
ROSEPETAL