My mom has had a series of right brain stroke. The last one was two weeks ago and she's having difficulties swallowing. Does that swallowing reflex ever return? My mom rejected the peg tube. .then was referred to hospice, this is tough because I'm not so sure she cannot be rehabbed
I'm betting the doctor(s) think your mom is thinking clearly. Otherwise, the doctors would be talking to you about options.
It's painful, so painful, to lose a loving parent. It would be more painful (to me) to put mom thru something that offered her no quality of life to assuage my own conscience. We simply must remember that death is the only way out.
That said, PEG tube is not necessarily a terrible thing and may be very appropriate, for example if someone has had a brainstem stroke and does not have dementia. Some people have misconceptions about them that make them not want them when it is really a good thing to consider. There are no restrictions on swimming, bathing, mobility, etc. and if anything can be taken orally with a reasonable degree of safety, just for the pleasure of tasting some food, it can still be done.