I have a six year old child with autism. I worked full-time, as a nurse, until recently. I now work only as needed in order to care for my child with autism. I also take care of my husbands other grandfather who is 95 years old. He lives in his own apartment. He can't drive. I take him to the store every week and spend time with him. I'm responsible to seeing all his medical care prescriptions etc. My
son has moderate to severe autism. Gets up in the middle of night. I run off 3-5 hrs of sleep a night. Now my husband wants me to consider taking care of his 98 year old grandfather who lives in our other house with caregiver. He is wheelchair bound. I can't see how I can possibly manage all this.
1. What is your husband doing as far as caring for these two grandfathers?
2. Where are his parents and other children of these two grandfathers?
3. Why aren't his parents and other children of these two grandfathers involved in their care?
4. Does your husband having any siblings who could help with these grandparents?
5. What resources do these grandparents have to pay for their own care?
Why would your husband expect this of you?
Who has been paying for the caregiver who take care of grandfather 98? Does she/he live there with him? Why would your husband want to remove that person and have you take over? Is it cost issues?
I would think if neither grandfather can pay for his own caregiving, then Medicaid needs to get onboard and both grandfathers be placed in a continuing care facility. If not, have hubby quit his job and become both grandfather's caregiver himself.
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