My sister put our mom in a home. Yesterday, I went there. My mom hates it and I want her to live with me and care for her. The sister put my moms house for sale. They called sheriffs and I was told to leave. My mother looked at my sister, pleading, the sister said no. They made me leave. Why can't I take her home and take care of her? I am succ trustee, executrix, etc. my sister is starting to change all the my moms assets, OUT of her trust. She emailed me today and said she is getting a restraining order so I can't even see my mom. I don't know what to do. I can only cry. HELP!
I'm very sorry for your mother's distress, which must be terribly upsetting for you. Try not to panic. Take deep breaths and get good advice.
Who has healthcare power of attorney? Financial power of attorney?
Is it just you and your sister or do you have other siblings?
What can you do so that you may see your mother? For example, could you visit with her in a common room (rather than her room)?
Do you work? Have a husband? Children? Do you have any experience caring for someone with dementia? Does your mother have the financial means to pay for in-home help?
I am sorry to ask so many questions, but understanding the background will help us provide for relevant comments.
Assets: a court appointed Guardian is expected to sell the house and use the Trust money for your mother's care. That is pretty standard. It might help for you to sit down with an attorney and know what you can and cannot do.
Usually a later POA cancels out all earlier ones.
Assets MUST be used for the care of the principal. If you sister is breaking the law and stealing assets she needs to be stopped. Sleeping with cops won't protect her.
Get a lawyer.
Sis has been removing assets out of trust, putting her name on each. Mother has excess of $2M. Sis only cares about money. She recently cancelled her phone 4 times, filed a R.O. On me to prevent any talking to mom or other 2 siblings, Judge threw it out. Our pops are same, why does her word go? I mean, besides she has slept with every cop?
My dad died 5 yrs ago, she lied on paperwork so no other sibling was notified. She "gave" me a old pair of his sweatpants to "remember" him by....of course not the truck or other $ things. She always hated my mom, until she realized her worth, which I always knew as she relied on me for keeping straight. I have had POA since 2001.