Her daughters do not take care of her. Been living and caring for a friend for some 10+ yrs. She denies her condition (Alzheimer's). I have no interest in being a caregiver, and her daughters do not take responsibility for her. Have a house of my own, and would like to stay in it, but, if I do, would spend my day going back and forth to her house, 3 miles away.
She has no clue what day/month/year it is, she asks the same questions 50x or more a day, she does not know when to take meds, she cannot take care of any bills or documents, etc., and, cannot live alone.
I do not wish to have power of attorney to take care of her matters. Have talked to her older daughter about the situation several times, but, nothing is ever done about the issue.
What can I do to make sure she is taken care of, and for me to press on and have a life of my own?
This subject became a little bit too painful for me, and opted to stay silent until I could figure things out. Went to see the doctor, and was recommended to wait 6 months, or more, before going to visit my friend. It seems like an eternity, but, if that is what it takes, so be it.
I call the place where she is at, and find out how she is doing. Feedback is sometimes well, other times, not so well. Guess time will tell how this will unfold.
Thanks to each and every one of you for your suggestions. There is no way I could have made it through this without your help.
Just let them know what you want and are willing to do. Call and remind them each week, if that is what you feel comfortable with.
I went to see my friend's doctor, and she recommended to wait 6 months, or more, before going to visit.
My friend's daughters did not place that restriction. This doctor is very competent, and knowledgeable of what is going on.