Her daughters do not take care of her. Been living and caring for a friend for some 10+ yrs. She denies her condition (Alzheimer's). I have no interest in being a caregiver, and her daughters do not take responsibility for her. Have a house of my own, and would like to stay in it, but, if I do, would spend my day going back and forth to her house, 3 miles away.
She has no clue what day/month/year it is, she asks the same questions 50x or more a day, she does not know when to take meds, she cannot take care of any bills or documents, etc., and, cannot live alone.
I do not wish to have power of attorney to take care of her matters. Have talked to her older daughter about the situation several times, but, nothing is ever done about the issue.
What can I do to make sure she is taken care of, and for me to press on and have a life of my own?
I agree with Gladimhere above, give the daughters 2 weeks notice that you will no longer be available to help out. Contact all of the daughters, both by phone and by certified mail, so no communication is lost.
Hope everything works out for the best.