In the last month he has fought with the phone company, the a/c company and has gone to the bank and says that they don't want to help him. Example he wanted to cash a check and they told him it had to be deposited first. He got very angry. Went to the atm and said it was broken, it wasn't. He just made a mistake with his password.
Has he started any new medications? Many medications have side effects that can cause personality changes or aggressive behavior.
Infections can also cause strange behavior. I'd suggest a physical and a good review of medications. If all is well in those areas, he should probably see a neurologist. This type of behavior could be a sign one of several types of dementia.
Good luck with your journey. Please check back when you feel up to it.
Carol
I'm just saying, those outward signs may be a sign of deeper and more complicated problems with handling finances, and the sooner you dive in and take care of it, the better. Best wishes to you.
I was afraid my dad would be angry, but he soon seemed almost grateful that I was handling something that had gotten too much for him.
It may take a critical incident until you have the opportunity to step in and help. If possible, a visit to the doctor is a good first step.
Why I ask is my boss is always fighting with some utility company or with some bank. That is just his personality as he always thinks he is right, and he is always in a hurry.... [sigh].
There is no way to "fix" your dad. All you can do is execise your rights as POA and open a small account to which he has access and hide the rest of his money so it is safe for his future needs. I opened an account with $500.00 for him. He had by this time lost his sense of monetary value, so he was happy to hold this bank account to show me he was in control!
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