She remarried and they moved to his hometown with no family or friends. We (3 children take turns) going to visit. Her spouse was her caregiver in MS, but not he is getting Hospice and we relocated her to CA. Everyone works and we need to place her in a home. She says she needs to go back to take care of him. She wants to go back, get her car and take care of him.
The question to be asked is, if you were in a loving marriage, your spouse was in ill health and your children decided to move you away from your spouse during this difficult time in both your lives, how would you feel? Where would you want to be?
Now, WILL THE MODERATORS PLEASE KILL THIS THREAD?!!
Ptimmie didn't care about her mother's and her stepfather's feelings one little bit and she didn't even care enough to come back here and see that people answered her question. What a little turd she is. I hope karma bites her a-- good and hard.
Most of us are tired of having this pop up in our emails. Make it Stop. Please.
I think she's a wicked btch of the cruelest sort and I've put her on my personal bus to hell.
I believe the best thing you can you for your mother is to be honest and up front because if you do not one lie can lead to another and before you know it you can't remember the truth. Being honest is setting the stage for her to be in reality of where her life is at this time. I hope this helps. Good luck
From experience, when we're called to serve, it will generally not come at a time or place of our liking or convenience, and most likely the task at hand will be beyond our current understanding, but guaranteed, when something is being presented to us, and we start feeling the tugging at our hearts to answer the call, likely it's part of our divine appointment. Which it seems you must be feeling that tugging, and thus your posting. I commend you for your honesty and candor.
Pray for God's direction, seek His word, and follow through. The place and task that seems most unrealistic in the natural, is often the place connected to the supernatural and your destiny; where the impossible becomes possible. Remember Jonah ran, but he could not hide from his assignment.
From someone who has walked many a mile in caregiver's shoes, I understand the constant tugging placed upon every aspect, of every person's life involved, including, but often overlooked, our loved ones who are being cared for.
Blessings and ((((hugs ))))
Let her at least see him.
The worst thing doctors, nurses, and family can do is to tell lies or not the full truth.
My Mother had alzheimer's for 9 to 10 years...probably longer before it was truly recognized. (another story) For the last four to five years before she died, I played the roles of her deceased brothers, Mother and Father, and my Father, all of whom had died some 35 to 50 years ago. She called out for these people, especially for her brothers Teddy and Danny. I eventually decided to stop trying to "reason", rather accepted the roles, and whomever she thought I was. It satisfied her, calmed her down, and with no skin off my back..just painful to see, hear and experience. Ocassionally, I was her Son Mark, and I was greatful for these experiences. But, needless to say, the AZ person does have some part of their brain that "connects"...far beyond what anyone knows. I know, I experienced. And as I've said on this website before, four days before my Mother died, she called me over to her bed, and distinctly spoke the words "Mark, I love you..and thank you for taking care of me".
Do the best you can to keep your parents together, and/or within a close proximity of each other. You may be able to seperate physically, but love is a powerful emotion, embedded deep within the brain and inner soul. It can be an unspoken love and care for one, when one can no longer talk. Help them to be together as best you can...is my advice. I doubt if you will ever regret it.
Hope this is of some help and peace of mind to you, and God Bless. Marco40
AUG 24, 2011
AND HAS NEVER EVER BEEN BACK SINCE.
SHE DID NOT LIKE OUR ANSWERS AND HAD NO PLANS FOR REUNITING HER MOTHER WITH HER DEARLY LOVED HUSBAND.
IN OTHER WORDS THE O.P. IS A WITCH.
BUT, I have came upon a thread that was years ago. But, the most recent comments had grown Away from the original question and the posters were commenting about THEIR current situation. Then I participate. Because it's no longer a dead-end thread but an Evolved thread.
I keep laughing Every Time PamelaSue comes on this thread to inform you all that the poster Never Ever responded after her original question. I guess you all have pushed her patience because PamelaSue is now posting IN ALL CAPITAL LETTERS. =)
But they do.
No matter HOW many times I check UNFOLLOW!
And THAT is why I get so damned angry.