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Well, it is wonderful to say don't take it personally but...How would I feel, I would feel horrible, but I'd also understand that it was my responsibility to make sure my needs were met when I was in a position to do so and I would most certainly show appreciation to those that care for me. Patience is a virtue, but I do not recommend martyrdom, if you are in a caring business, it means you are detached and have staff shifts and are not burdened by the whole thing. I do not think it helps to make people feel guilty for not being so perfect.
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Sorry but just saying don't take it personally is not too helpful. So her MIL is dying, scared, etc. Does that mean that pbjgear should give her MIL a free pass to treat her like something she scraped off the bottom of her shoe? No! My dad had terminal cancer, he got to where he couldn't do the things he wanted to do and he may have been scared himself and I know he was depressed but he never once was nasty to me or anyone else. He stayed the sweet man that he always was. Dying doesn't excuse someone's bad behavior.

I hope you decide to come back pbjgear and let us know how you're doing. If your MIL is still in your home you can do one of three things. Let things continue as they are or tell your husband it's either you or her and he needs to know that if he chooses her then you will be moving out and he and his family will be taking care of her. Or the third thing is set your boundaries with her and let her know that there will be consequences for crossing them. She can treat you with respect or she can go to a facility. Her choice.
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