I get home and she took a shower. She usually gets up at around 2 pm and that is with me waking her up. so she takes a shower at 11 when I am gone. I had to go to the dentist and I said now please do not cook anything. I come home and she burned the bacon on the stove. I guess I should not say anything. I think I just answered my own question
But the stove? Listen to HeartToHeart. Take the knobs off when you're gone.
If I might share with you a short story of someone who didn't take that advice? His brother, living alone just after his sister died, a raging uncontrolled diabetic. I told my friend, his brother, to shut off the stove (in this case, because the stove would never /should never be used).
"Oh, that's not necessary." TWO DAYS LATER! Brother was cooking a pizza in the oven. When he pulled it out, he burned his hand -- badly -- and, worse, the pizza landed on his thighs somehow, and he wound up with second degree burns, diabetic complications and three weeks in the hospital.
Stoves and dementia absolutely do not mix.
Everything's "normal" with dementia. No surprises that you have all KINDS of surprises! Just an all-out effort to think ahead and solve those hazards/problems you can think of . . . and then solve each and every one as it arises.
I understand your concerns about her safety (I go through the same things).