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My mom is 68 yrs old. Its probably in the 3 to 4th stage of dementia. I dont know what the options are yet but I dont think that she will want treatment, my father passed away and all she talks about is being with him. She is bored with us and it is a hard decision to make for me because I dont think she can make that decision and if she does it will be to refuse cause she wants to go "home". Its sad but I dont blame her. My emotions are so crazy these days.
I am so sorry for the spot you are in. The procedure itself (the anesthesia) could make her dementia symptoms worse. Discuss this risk with her doctor. Also discuss what the options are if cancer is found, and what the risks are for her in the treatments. If she has cancer and it isn't treated, what will her life be like? If you feel that you are going to have to make the decisions, learn as much as you can, before the d&c is performed.
A few years ago my mother was advised to have certain tests. She refused, saying that if cancer was found she would not have it treated, so what was the point of knowing? She said she'd had a good long life and if cancer was the way she was going to go, so be it. Her wonderful geriatrician said, "I understand that. Many of my older patients feel that way. I respect your decision. It is my responsibility to tell you that if cancer were found it could be treated and that may increase your life span. If you change your mind, I will set up the tests at any time." My mother was in her late eighties at the time, though. Your mother is very young for this kind of decision. On the other hand, she has dementia, and I think that changes things. Her life span will probably be shortened by the dementia in any case. I am about her age, and if I had dementia (and could still make rational decisions) I'm not sure I would go through cancer treatment to increase my life span. (I might take treatment to reduce pain and suffering.) End stage dementia is not a very appealing prospect.
My sincere warm hugs to you, MMendez. This is a heart-wrenching position you are in. I don't think there are "right" answers. Learn all you can. Make your decision in love, and then don't beat yourself up, whatever the outcome. All any of us can do is our best.
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I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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How old is your mother? How advanced is her dementia? If they do find cancer, what are the options? Will she want treatment?
A few years ago my mother was advised to have certain tests. She refused, saying that if cancer was found she would not have it treated, so what was the point of knowing? She said she'd had a good long life and if cancer was the way she was going to go, so be it. Her wonderful geriatrician said, "I understand that. Many of my older patients feel that way. I respect your decision. It is my responsibility to tell you that if cancer were found it could be treated and that may increase your life span. If you change your mind, I will set up the tests at any time." My mother was in her late eighties at the time, though. Your mother is very young for this kind of decision. On the other hand, she has dementia, and I think that changes things. Her life span will probably be shortened by the dementia in any case. I am about her age, and if I had dementia (and could still make rational decisions) I'm not sure I would go through cancer treatment to increase my life span. (I might take treatment to reduce pain and suffering.) End stage dementia is not a very appealing prospect.
My sincere warm hugs to you, MMendez. This is a heart-wrenching position you are in. I don't think there are "right" answers. Learn all you can. Make your decision in love, and then don't beat yourself up, whatever the outcome. All any of us can do is our best.