I’m having trouble understanding why my mother never expresses any gratitude or a thank you for taking care of her daily. She asks me why am I mad, I tell her I’m not mad I’m tired. I don’t like being a caregiver, I need help putting her to bed at night, getting her up in the morning, making breakfast, lunch, dinner. I’m tired and getting very depressed.
My mother lives in Memory Care Assisted Living b/c I could never care for her in my home; I just couldn't and wouldn't. Maybe now is the time for you to either bring in hired help or look into placement for your mother. There comes a time when a person has to Cry Uncle, and this may be your time. Burn out is no joke; please don't become a statistic where your mother outlives YOU b/c of all the stress you're under! God forbid.
Wishing you the best of luck looking after YOURSELF now! You deserve to.
Sounds more like your mother is the "glass is empty AND dirty and you left it for me to clean up!"