He is of sound mind....no dementia. Apparently he has always been one of those guys. He tells me that his last caregiver, who was neglecting him, did all of these sexual things. I have been direct, redirected the conversation, used humor, been serious. I am out of ideas. My last lady was very overtly sexual, but it was because of dementia, and my strategies worked to get us past her impulses.
This man had dementia if I remember correctly.
Key thing: she *is* the employer. She has set up and runs an independent care service, while remaining the lead caregiver. She's fantastic, we need many more people like her.
Which also raises the question: if she 'fires' this client and terminates his family's contract, where will this frail disabled elder get care? Saying "if you're frail and disabled but some of your behaviours are repellant then too bad you're on your own" may feel satisfying but it is not an answer.