He is of sound mind....no dementia. Apparently he has always been one of those guys. He tells me that his last caregiver, who was neglecting him, did all of these sexual things. I have been direct, redirected the conversation, used humor, been serious. I am out of ideas. My last lady was very overtly sexual, but it was because of dementia, and my strategies worked to get us past her impulses.
Well, you're the professional! Normally we'd be asking you for advice... :/
To the middle-aged amateur, e.g. me, it sounds like short-term you've got two options.
1. Adopt a Nurse Ratched strategy.
2. Subcontract male personal caregivers.
In the wider context though, it's actually quite an interesting ethical question.
Possibly not one I'm very comfortable discussing, as it turns out!
But. This is a man whose interest in sexual activity has not waned but who is unable, unaided, to gratify it. What to do?
He is not free to pick on the nearest available breathing female, no. Obviously not. Have you discussed options and possibilities with your professional peers? I'm sure there will have been research and debate, and personally I can accept that this should be an aspect of care that's as important to wellbeing as hygiene and nutrition, but I freely admit that I have no clue what you do about it.
Any family members or professional representatives of his that you can consult?
A private message.
Just because someone is old does not , DOES NOT, excuse this. By any means. This is the hidden #me too.
So who is engaging in inappropriate behaviour, and towards whom, and what has happened exactly?