I’m positive nothing inappropriate has occurred, she thinks this aide sleeps with her and she believes that he feels the same way. I have not brought this up to anyone at the facility but I do know that the aide now brings in a female staffer when he has to attend to her so I’m guessing she made him uncomfortable. In any event, I just change the subject but this “fantasy” really drives her and in a bizarre way keeps her in a positive state of mind. She takes better care with her appearance and seems kind of “up” like one is in teenage love. This is so bizarre. Any thoughts?
But hey, I'm glad to hear the aide brings a female staffer in with him when tending to your mother, that's a good thing. And imo it's also a good thing that she believes this fantasy because it keeps her happy & cheerful & WANTING to keep up her appearance, and that's wonderful.
Good luck!
Sometimes our LO’s say all kinds of crazy things that really don’t matter, but this scenario might be worth exploring for peace of mind all around. Good luck.
well that was it, I now pick her movies very carefully. Back to the bed thing. She tells me there is someone in her bed all the time. She can see them. But when I put her in for the night she says OK they have gone. I have gotten to the point that nothing she says is going to make any sense.
I just figure she's not at herself and go about the helping tend to my wife.
Now you are wondering how to deal with this ? Do you play along with your Mom's harmless fantasy which keeps Her in a positive frame of mind, and it motivates Her to take pride in Her appearance, or do you just bust Her baloon and crush probably the last happy chapter left in Her Life ?
l would be incline to approach the Aide quietly and check that He's ok. If it is harmless fantasy and no one is feeling hurt or offended by this then let it be.
And if there is happiness in an emotional fantasy...all the better. a little Dr Bach Rescue Remedy would ease the anxiety for your Mother...and yourself when you come and go. It is a wonderful harmless product, made from the dew of flowers. And has been on the market for over 90 years now. I use it a lot for my grandfather...pets...baby ....It brings a 'calm steadiness" without a any drugs effect. Great stuff
I mentioned it to the nursing supervisor. I was concerned her stories could cause a problem for the male nurse. They took steps to give her a female nurse in the evening when she’s most confused. It may make your mother happy but I’d be concerned about a third party’s reaction who could be upset and cause a serious problem , people gossip and don’t always make sure about facts before they complain