Have taken care of my husband for 9 yrs. he is 70. He had Sm Cell Lung Cancer, Stroke, Leaking Aorta, Dementia, Shunt Placement etc... I am burnt out big time with no respite, little help with Home Health Care, and now they've bowed out. Ergggg! My # 1 complaint is I am fed up with his Crap! Literally!! I have changed diapers, washed soiled under clothes, pj's etc... He uses the toilet on his own, when he can make it there, but has the wiping ability of a 2 yr old, it's up his back, down his legs, the floor toilet and sink etc...( you get the picture) everywhere. Then this infuriates and sends me into a blind rage. It takes 1 to 2 hrs cleaning him the bathroom and taking out the trash. What am I to do? He won't wear diapers, which really wouldn't be a solution anyway as I am just beyond done cleaning CRAP!!!