Through a long list of circumstances, I am stuck caring for my grandmother whos needs have surpassed my abilities. She Needs a home.
Using her ssi and medicaid I've researched homes they want way more than we can afford, I am now legally bound to her as caregiver, but I am done. I can't do it anymore. 24/7 care, no job no pay. IHSS has taken months, I'm just forced to sit here trapped. Cops n social workers constantly accusing me of abuse but never helping, I'm leaving the state. Without her. They have to place her then right?
So what I wanna know is. How do I get out!!? Without going to jail. I don't want opinions on why I should stick out or ways to cope. I want to know how to make her a ward of the state, so I can live my life. How long does one go to jail for about doing and leaving the state. I'm leaving either way.
Hang on. Someone will post that is familiar with CA.
You say that cops and social workers are constantly accusing you of elder abuse, who is calling them? What type of abuse are you accused of and how is it that she is left in your care? I don't get it.
Legal status as caregiver notwithstanding, call one of your relatives or call all of your relatives and tell them what you have told us. If you want and have email addresses, send a global email to everyone at once. Tell them in no uncertain terms, do not pussyfoot around, that Granny is in danger and needs somewhere to go, that you can no longer be responsible for her care. Tell them that you will give them 24 hours to contact you or you will take her to the ER and leave her there.
Granny does not deserve to live out her life in the care of someone who is abusing her, no matter what the family history may be. Making her a ward of the state would be better.
Kudos to you for recognizing your limitations. Please follow up with finding alternative care for Granny. Your family members may not have taken you seriously in the past, so make sure they do now. Good luck with this and whatever you decide to do with your newfound freedom.
I due to hospital visits and my being here with her 24/7 am designated as the person who assumed the responsibility.
That being said, I don't understand why she can't afford a nursing home if she's eligible for Medicaid. Nursing homes that accept Medicaid have to accept whatever Medicaid pays them. At least that's my understanding. Maybe California has different rules - hopefully somebody who's familiar with those will speak up.
Good luck. I don't blame you at all for wanting to get out. It's not a life for a young person, or really any person, to do unaided.
I hope you find the assistance you need.